Posted by: jude49 | July 10, 2014

What Stories Do You Tell Yourself?

Hello Readers,

I love stories! However, there is one kind of story that is dangerous… and that story is the one you tell yourself that is based on assumptions and faulty interpretation. Here is one example…


A client discovers she has some health problems. She takes the information her physician gives her and carefully reviews it. Questions arise. She creates a story based on her interpretation of the facts. As well, she consults Google and visits medical sites that create more questions. She makes assumptions. Her story changes. The more she thinks about her condition, the anxiety mounts. She makes her own dire diagnosis. Finally, the anxiety becomes too much for her, and, in tears, she phones her physician in utter panic. After listening to her, he tells her than her interpretation is faulty, and he reassures her that her medical condition is very treatable.


  • First, there is always more than one interpretation to every situation, every issue.
  • Second, she “trusts” Google sites that can only give general information.
  • Third, she views her interpretations and assumptions as fact.
  • Fourth, she builds her anxiety by focusing on what she “believes” will happen.

What Could She Have Done Differently?

  • Told herself that interpretations and assumptions are just that and not facts.
  • Phoned her physician and checked out her assumptions/interpretations with him.
  • Resisted googling her “medical condition.”
  • Kept herself calm by focusing on her breath and/or her place(s) of peace.
  • Stayed in the present moment.

So much of what you worry about never happens. In the example of my client, all that worry was negative energy that could have been put to better use by focusing on quieting her busy mind. When your mind is quiet, you then have the ability to make good decisions because you are not overwhelmed by “big” emotions.

The worst stories you tell yourself usually happen when you are:

  • fatigued
  • triggered
  • hungry
  • experiencing a change in routine or have had your routine abruptly changed by an unexpected event

Next time you are tempted to tell yourself a story about yourself, meditate first. Doing so will help reduce those “big” emotions, calm down and see issues in perspective. When that happens, you can make a reasoned rather than a reactive decision. Your body and mind will thank you for being kind and compassionate.

Challenge: When you find yourself moving into anxiety, can you stop yourself and listen to the story you’re telling yourself and stop it by going to your place of peace?







  1. So true….great post, good reminder.

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